I am not sure if this example qualifies as a microaggression persay but I read an article this past week about “Things to never say to a working mom”. I have also read one about “Things never to say to a stay at home mom” and I have to say, as I was reading them I was thinking about this class and how these statements addressed in the articles were similar to the comments discussed in the media video we viewed for our discussion. The questions were not meant to be demeaning or offensive but were easily taken that way. They offended and made SAH moms and working moms feel inadequate.
It reminded me of the time someone told me that they would stop working and stay home once they had children because they “didn’t want someone else raising their child”. When they said it, it was not meant to be offensive but I took it that way. It made me feel as though this person thought I, and other working moms were selfish and that I was not taking responsibility for raising my child. I felt inadequate as a mother even though I knew I was doing what was best for my family and that I AM raising my child. I am the one who loves, cares for, feeds, bathes, teaches, disciplines, and raises my child but I am also lucky to have caregivers who are reflective of the way I am raising my child and are there to carry on what I do, when I can not be there. I felt the need to defend myself to her even though she was not directly telling me that I wasn’t raising my child.
Before the reviewing the media presentation this week and thinking about experiences of mine as well as friends, I did not realize how hurtful, seemingly innocent comments can be when they are connected to any type of discrimination, prejudice, or stereotype. It has opened my eyes and caused me to really stop and think before I speak.